Friday, September 18, 2009

A little something to share

Sometimes we find ourselves saying “yes” to others in order to please them. Saying yes all the time can leave you feeling stressed out, especially if you’re agreeing to do something you don’t want to do. While there are times to say yes, there are also times you have to say no!

  1. Step1
    Think about your current commitments. If you already have enough things you’re committed to doing, and someone asks you to do something else, say no. Don’t overload yourself with extra tasks.
  2. Step2
    Know your limits. We all have just so much that we can handle at a time. Set limits for yourself so that you don’t commit to do more things that you can handle without stressing yourself out.
  3. Step3
    Stop feeling guilty. Saying no isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Don’t let people make you feel guilty because you say no to them. You are not the only person who can do things, and if you’re not available they will just have to find someone else. Feeling guilty can also stress you out, so let go of the guilt.
  4. Step4
    Start to compromise. You can say no to full tasks, such as cooking an entire holiday meal, but you can compromise and agree to have it at your home as long as everyone brings a dish. This will lessen the amount of work you have to do, since others will be helping out.
  5. Step5
    Take time to think it over. You don’t have to give an answer right away. If you’re not sure if you want to commit to doing whatever is asked of you, tell the person you need time to think about it before you give an answer. Don’t rush into your decisions. Making decisions without thinking them over first can lead to regret.
  6. Step6
    Try to let people down gently, but be completely honest at the same time. Say something like “I appreciate you asking me but I can’t commit to that at this time.” You can give reasons why you’re not able to commit, but it’s not necessary if you don’t want to.
  7. Step7
    Practice saying no. If you’re used to saying yes all the time, it will take some time and effort until you’re comfortable saying no. Ask friends or family members to help you practice becoming comfortable saying no. Be sure not to ask the ones who always are asking you to do things or who make you feel pressured to do things.

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